Frequently Asked Questions
Will we be legally married after your wedding ceremony?
I cannot yet be witness to a legal marriage or partnership, so couples can make an appointment with the HSE and legally sign the register (in the registry office, with two witnesses) separately to the ceremony itself. If you don't live in Ireland, you can carry out the legal part of your marriage in your own country of residence before coming here for your wedding. Usually the legal part takes place before hand, but afterwards is fine too.
Why have two separate events?
When a baby is born, the birth is registered but then a naming ceremony or christening may not happen for weeks or months afterwards.
Similarly, when a death occurs, there is usually a funeral soon afterwards, but the death may not be formally certified until later.
With a wedding, the legal registration can take place on a different day. This does not make a wedding ceremony any less special.
The benefits of doing the two parts separately are manifold:
- You will be free to have your wedding on any day you choose - the HSE only do weddings Mon - Friday/9-5, so getting the legal part done before hand means you can have your wedding on a weekday, at the weekend or a bank holiday, at any time of the day you want.
- You can choose any venue you want - because the legal part has already been done, there are no restrictions on where you get married. You can have an outdoor wedding on a cliff top, you can have an indoor wedding in your home, you can do it in a marquee, you can do it in a barn, you can go to any one of the hundreds of amazing venues all over Ireland... the only restriction is your imagination.
- You can tailor your ceremony completely to your wishes. You might want something traditional, you might want something completely unusual but with the legal part already done, you can have any kind of ceremony you want.
- You can have your wedding safe in the knowledge that your legalities are done and dusted, which takes a lot of stress out of your wedding day. Whether or not you tell people you've done the legal part before hand or not is completely up to you. But when you're standing in front of a room full of people saying your wedding vows, trust us, having the legal part done will not make it feel any less of a huge occasion!
- If you are coming from overseas, you can do the legal part of your wedding in your own country of residence meaning less paperwork when you get here.
Do you perform same sex marriages?
Yes! Whether it's two brides, two grooms or one of each, it makes no difference to me. Every couple is unique and every ceremony will be crafted around their story.
How many years do I need to be married before I should renew my vows?
That's completely up to you! Lots of people renew their vows on a significant anniversary - 25 or 50 years. Other romantic souls like to do it every 10 years. Others still may have had had something happen to them in their lives, for example an illness, which makes them reassess their relationship and so they want to do it for that reason. There is no right or wrong time to renew your vows - it's whenever it feels right to you.
Who can come to our vow renewal?
You might want your vow renewal to just be the two of you, or perhaps have a couple of witnesses. Maybe you want to relive your wedding and want throw a big party. Do whatever you're comfortable with!
Where do baby namings take place?
You can have a baby naming anywhere. Some people opt to have them at home, others hire out a room in a venue. Indoors is nearly always opted for because it's likely there will be other children attending so it's safer and less stressful to have them where their parents can keep an eye on them, not to mention the risk of rain in Ireland!
Can our other children or family members get involved?
Anyone can get involved! If there are other children, you might like them to read a poem or sing or take part in some other way. If you have family members who might be more used to a christening or baptism, you could ask them to say a prayer or some words of welcome into the family. There are loads of ways to make the ceremony special and one that everyone will remember, and talk about as your child grows up.
Where did the photos on the website come from?
The talented Sarah Connolly took most of the photos but others come from different ceremonies and the photo credit is underneath. Some others are free stock photos.
How many people can we have at our ceremony?
The only constraint on the number of people who can attend is the venue, and your preference. Whether you're going for small and intimate, or big and bold, I can perform a ceremony whatever the audience size.
What do you charge for your services?
Prices for the different ceremonies vary a bit depending on things like travel, complexity etc. Please get in touch so that I can give you a guide price for your ceremony.
How much training have you done?
Over the course of 12 months, I trained with the IIOC and covered a variety of modules in areas such as ceremony enhancements, ceremony delivery and crafting love stories. The IIOC are widely recognised as Ireland's leading celebrancy organisation. I am also a member of the IECS, Ireland's largest professional celebrant society.